Besides, he too with pleasure expects appearance of the child.However at heart the husband feels superfluous, just as the little boy considers himself outcast when learns that in a family there will be a new child soon.Externally this hidden feeling of uselessness is shown in irritability in relation to the wife, in aspiration to spend much time outdoors, in courting for other women.Thus, the wife appears the deprived support of the husband just when it most of all needs it; after all she enters a new, unfamiliar stage of the life.
Sometimes the woman who is afraid to lose the husband, wants to accept the child in vain hope that it will keep love in a family.Adoption of the child for the similar reasons not only is dishonest in relation to it.Usually it is wrong and for parents.Quite often adopted child who was loved not really, becomes then difficult.It is usually unreasonable to lonely person to adopt the child because both boys, and girls need influence of both parents.Besides, the lonely person can focus too much attention on the child.
What can be finer than the child who is openheartedly ready to share with us, parents, everything, what at him boiled in soul?Of course, all this difficultly and demands time.But many whom I met, told how they, parents, left this difficult contradiction: need to pay close attention to children and a lack of time.For example, the writer Joe Bailey allocated certain days in the weekly when it was occupied only with family affairs, and these days politely refused all other invitations to lectures, performances and so forth.
Finishing chapter and conversation on difficulties of teenage age, I want to remind once again what to start transferring to the child the cultural wealth best of all at early stages of his life.Children as sponges, they absorb in themselves all knowledge which present to them.It is obvious that if at early stages of life they get positive emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual experience, it is more probable that subsequently they will become fullfledged members of society.The main condition for this purpose unconditional love.
But, of course, if does not calm down and everything cries more strongly, you should get up.But try to do the same in a month.After months if there is an opportunity, place the child to the certain room.The child since the birth can sleep in the certain room if it is convenient to you and if you is rather close to hear its crying.If in the beginning its bed is in the room of parents, at month age it is desirable to move the child to other room.I would not recommend to leave the child for the night in the room of parents after months.
If you about one year gave to the child only digestible vegetables, after a year try less popular and it is more difficult usvoyaemy vegetables: cabbage including color, turnip, parsnip.Their sharp taste can be softened, having welded them in two waters.Some children like these vegetables, and they well digest them, other children refuse even to try them.The corn in grains is given only after years.Absolutely small children swallow of corn without chewing, and it leaves with a stake undigested.
More I with it never went.I always felt guilty if something caused discontent of parents.It seemed to me that I am the most insignificant personality on light.On the second year of study fell in college of an assessment of Denise with decent to the very bad.It occurred because she skipped many classes.Some time she hid the estimates from parents.It proceeded until her mother did not appear suddenly to the campus without the prevention.Deniz was necessary to tell it the truth.
.Pea.Potatoes puree, what?.Potato.Salad from carrots, what?.Carrot.Compote from pears, what?.Pear.Pies from apples, what?.Apple.The hare jumped by opens following stranikets.Stopped and speaks: Let me in teremok.And at it with itself a full basket of fruit.Fingertype game Fruit Here at a hare Dimochki Frukta in a small basket: Apples and pears.Be treated, eat!Peaches and plums, Ripe, beautiful!
It did not begin to stir old unpleasant subjects or offenses.He simply told that will read other book.Whether somebody can express anger better?The only thing that David made incorrectly, it that he raised the voice on mother.I know not so, there are a lot of people, including even mature which could surpass it.And what would happen if I did not restrain and would punish David?I will answer you: it was at the third level of a scale of anger, and next time when becomes angry, it will be compelled to use less mature way of expression of anger.
Suitsidentov confuse to those who is mentally sick.There is even a point of view as if suitsidenta are dangerous not only for themselves, but also to others.Yes, suitsidenta can behave as abnormal, however their behavior is not a consequence of a mental disease.Their acts and thoughts are inadequate only in that degree in what inadequate was their situation.Besides, in the majority of a suitsidenta do not constitute danger to others.They can be angry, but their irritation is directed only on itself.
He considers each parental request or the order as new infringement of his personality and develops ways of resistance.In the most hard cases the teenager gets used to react to all requests of parents with such indignation that becomes clear its attitude towards parental authority and eventually and to any authority, including God antithetically to what from it waited.In order that the teenager, identifying itself with parents, closely connected itself with them and was capable to accept their values, he has to feel that is sincerely liked and know that him appreciate.
And, of course, happens so that the teenager, without any visible reason, desperately needs caress.If you are ready to give it it, you will spend with it wonderful moments.However you always have to be on the alert and be able to distinguish such situations though sometimes it is very difficult to understand when the teenager waits for attention of an ilaska.Often it does extremely delicate hints.It can approach you and exorcise on some superficial and nothing the meaning subjects.As a rule, it is also a key.
Adults, apparently, receive enough vitamin D from eggs, oils, fishes and at influence of sunshine.But the child who is a little on the sun has to accept this vitamin B a type of a concentrate and in the summer, and in the winter until its growth stops.Women have to accept in addition vitamin D during pregnancy and feeding by a breast.Water and cellulose Water is vital for the correct functioning of a human body.Offer the child time water one or two in each break between feedings, and in hot weather is more often.
To them where work, affairs, things is more important than them friends.And in general, to them absolutely to anything know that I do.It does not concern them.I simply want to be from them far away and to live in itself.And actually, why they have to worry about me?After all earlier to them was to spit on me.When Tom opened the soul, it became clear that he has a deep depression and he is constantly dissatisfied with itselfhimself and the life.How many he remembered himself, he was eager for cordial and close relations with parents, but then he gradually refused this dream.
There is no special need to force the shy child to stroke an unfamiliar dog or to float in deep part of the river, or most to go in the bus.He will want to make it when takes courage.But, on the other hand, if he already started going to kindergarten, it is better to insist that it went there, despite the fear.If one thought of it brings it into a panic, meet requirements of him.Do not allow the child to come to a parental bed at night.It has to remain in the bed.
And at this time with it it will be easy both to exchange views, and to talk.For the correct selfassessment and normal mental development it is very important to teenager to know that if necessary he can always ask you for the help.PHYSICAL CONTACT When the child becomes a teenager, he needs to know, as before, that it love and accept such what it is.The problem of many loving parents consists that they do not represent as to an udovletvorityet requirement.Some try to do it, excessively indulging teenagers, providing them with such things as the car, audio system or sports equipment that those felt not worse than the contemporaries.
These habits as well as a sosaniye of fingers, pass over time.When the child falls in love with an old rag or a torn toy which he pressed to himself, sosya the finger, mother it irritates because it externally looks ugly.But with it there's nothing to be done.You can imperceptibly take away this thing to wash and dry up it.Sometimes the child agrees to replace an old subject new, just the same.It would be wrong to force it to throw out a thing which brings it such consolation.
It can reduce amount of milk.Do not listen to skeptical remarks of the acquaintances.Many are skeptical about chest feeding.They can start dissuading young mother to try to adjust chest feeding.Their remarks, perhaps, will be such: You, of course, are not going to nurse, the truth?, Honor it to anybody it is impossible!, Why to you it is necessary?, With such breast at you all the same it will turn out nothing, Your poor kid starves.You want to exhaust it.
Slowly developing children.You with huge interest watch development of the child.If it quickly grows, you are proud of it and yourself too, that brought it into world.When the child rejoices to the achievements when he with enthusiastic amazement reopens for himself world around, you endure the most wonderful days of the childhood.But you immediately start worrying if your child starts lagging behind in any relation children of your acquaintances.You not simply are nervous, you feel the little guilty.
And so it is difficult to find original respect for parents today, it is hardly worth undermining it still.But one more basic thing of Anna Landers who is an example of the wrong relation to expression of love of children is responsible.It turns out that time the father expresses the love in an inadmissible way, so it should not show it at all.We already saw, physical contact with the father is how important for the teenage girl.This specific father behaves incorrectly, but whether means it, what it is necessary to exclude physical contact completely?
But this is true.The only exit not to take the responsibility, and it is simple to be an example to which the teenager could follow.Let's return to Deyvid.Like most of the children making percent he studied generally soso.Once the sister asked it: Deyvid, you solved, to what college will come?Not yet, he answered without visible interest.A bit later the friend told Deyvidu that is going to come to one known large college.Oho, now that's something like it!
Do not hurry the child and enjoy, bathing him, as well as he enjoys bathing.Ears, nose, eyes, mouth, nails.Wash only auricles, but not acoustical pass.Seurat is formed and crowds in the ear channel to protect and clear it.The ear channel is covered with tiny, almost invisible hairs which slowly move sulfur and the accumulated dirt to an exit.Eyes are washed out by tears which are formed constantly and not just when the child cries.Therefore healthy eyes do not need washing.
And to try to be softer thus.We understand it; but here because of morning food almost all clash.For some reason it seems to us as if hungry the child cannot go to school by no means.We feed him almost violently; also we achieve the: the child ate swallowing of a breakfast together with tears.Same result: he will sit down at a school desk angry and upset.Why don't we remember own feeling early in the morning when the piece does not climb in a throat?Composure since morning a thing very important, and value is much higher than one hundred it another of calories.
However at such mixed feeding breast milk will decrease most likely, and the child can prefer a pacifier and refuse a breast absolutely.Most of women refuses such mixed feeding as it means double work: preparation of dairy mix and feeding by a breast, i.e.need to be connected by the schedule of feedings.The most reasonable in that case is at first to try to transfer gradually the child entirely to feeding by a breast if you have after all a lot of milk we will tell, a half of quantity necessary for the child, see section .
With it mother, average years the intelligent lady, with the fine speech and pleasant manners.The girl complains of irritability and melancholy.Mother tells that the daughter besides very badly eats.Happens, starves days, already slender, she the last half a year grows thin more and more; with a growth, usual for the age, slightly more than thirty five kilograms weigh.History such is.About a year ago the girl was very much changed: became thoughtful and sad, lost friends; quite various interests grew dull before; became worse to study, complain of a general malaise, to pass school, to lie much.
A.Vasilyeva, V.V.Gerbova, T.S.Komarova.M, cutting and outgaming, and also the subject picture to all fairy tales on which these characters can be imposed or exposed.Samples of grants for work with children are given.In the Appendix cards for global reading according to all fairy tales which should be cut out before occupation are given.According to each fairy tale we offer three occupations.Each occupation has the purposes educational, training, developing.
Train until its emotional trace died away.As soon as between you the atmosphere of stability is established, sit down together and make three things.You have to let to it know that do not intend to condemn him.Especially if the child strongly reacts to any authority, that is is among percent see chapter as he can have sense of guilt for deeds.If I do not let to it know that I condemn him, he can never repeat it.But if he never repeats it, I will have no opportunity to help it to rise by the following step of a ladder of anger.
The child repeats them.Father Frost came to the city.Goes and at windows frosty patterns razrisokvyvat glasses: lll.The child after the logopedist says a sound.Draws patterns at windows, it staraktsya.And on what its patterns are similar?On one pattern it is possible to make out a firtree fig..The child leads round the image of a firtree on points and thus use will wear out: lll.Father Frost approached kindergarten and stopped.Solved in a bag to glance.
Before the living, talkative, sociable child became closed, silent, aspiring to a privacy.Sensitive, tender and timid turned in sharp, hamovaty, not mincing words.It is hard for us to adapt to a new situation: we do not manage to be reconstructed.Occupied with own experiences and problems, we quite often do not realize at all: these difficulties are connected with that actually our child endures crisis.It hurts us most often because suffers.Reasons for collisions arise one by one.And certainly, appearance and a manner to put on first of all becomes a stumbling block.
snowman.Flower, the first appearing from under snow.snowdrop.On each word the child spreads threads rays round a snowflake.The snowflake saw as there is a lot of at it rays, and was surprised.Show how she was surprised.And then cheerfully smiled.Show as.The child carries out.Occupation result.Logopedist.Our walk came to an end, it is time to come back.And the snowflake can be taken with itself?And why it is impossible?
I spoke to myself: Well give, David.Forward!Let out the anger outside!Here when you will let out it, I will be engaged in you.Of course, similar I did not tell anything to David.Why I wanted that the anger came to light?Because so far he sat in David, it controlled a situation.But when the anger came to light, David felt silly, and I could seize control levers again.It expressed verbally all the anger and now asked a question: Well and what further?
Usual schedule: , , , , , , and o'clock in the morning.When one column of the table is scrawled, pass to another.In the last cages of the last column the child weighing , kg transition from teaspoons to grams is made.Having reached the weight of ,, kg, the child will be able to make a night break at o'clock, but in the afternoon he will still eat in hours.It means that the total should be divided into portions instead of When you need amount of milk, bigger than g, pass to recipes in section It is difficult for you to overcome concern.
It is not difficult for you to remain in good relations with the teacher if your child perfectly studies.But if he studies badly, the relations with teachers can become complicated.The best teachers, as well as the best parents, only people.Each of them is proud of the work.Each of them has proprietary feelings in relation to the child.Everyone in soul considers fairly or not that the child would achieve much the best results if other party treated it a little differently.Parents should remember that the teacher is also sensitive, as well as they that they will achieve much bigger from joint discussions if are friendly and compliant.
And I do not even know for whom I felt sorry more in this situation the Bean, his mother or his father.Very often occurs so that teenagers assume the anger of parents which did not find other way out.Teenagers are quite often inclined to press on us, to keep in suspense, upset and annoy us and therefore sometimes it seems to us fair to splash out on them all accumulated anger.Be careful!Frequent and rough fits of anger are inadmissible for parents if they want to find approach to the teenagers.Anything so does not destroy relationship of parents and teenagers as badly controlled anger.
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